Snacks and more

So schools out for Summer and because I try  to simplify my life I have the goal to purchase child friendly snacks for the summer.  So we walk into  Walmart  Neighborhood Market with my list of things to purchase. I love the Neighborhood Market because its cheaper than the other grocery stores but it still gives you that small town feel . And it has a larger selection of foods.  Sometimes I go to the Super Walmart too because there is nothing like buying milk and some cute leggings  all at the same time . 🙂

I try to purchase food for two weeks because I frequent Wal-mart so much the people have started speaking to me by first name and yea I guess that’s ok if you like that sort of thing .  But since my husband is away in training for the Air force I don’t have time to send him there for last minute things so my lists have to be precised. Anyway I have a small list of things I need and since Wal-mart has those consistent falling prices I can get more for just a small amount of money and its usually fresh because of their consistent turn overs .  My first summer trip there we needed cheese, water, juice, crackers and then kid friendly foods. Thank God Wal-mart has cereal on a Summer Sale because its too hot for waffles  in the Summer.  I also needed to purchase snack foods,  lays potato chips,  oreo cookies , goldfish crackers, cheezits, koolaid jammers , and because any meal can easily be made by this we desperately needed Knorr pasta and rice sides.

Now I have two sets of children the  really greedy group and the super greedy group.  My super greedy group likes fresh veggies and fresh fruit so we needed fruit as well. I typically frequent the farmers market but with the prices they have on fruit at wal-mart who could resists those cherries, limes and apples.

So everyone is frazzled in the summer when it comes to feeding their kids . I have learned to not sweat the small stuff and prepare. It is true that my children may go thru a bag of cherries in one day and eat all of the twenty count of  lays in two days or half a pack of oreos in 30 minutes but its all in how you prep your family.  Kids like routines , rituals and rules.  So remember those 3 words and enforce them. First things first nothing is served unless you’re all clean. Breakfast comes first , its summer so cereal is a staple for us .  If camp is not on your schedule for the summer put your kids on a schedule . The more occupied they are the less they think about eating .  We typically eat lunch on the run , one of our favorite stops is Chickfila . We don’t always get kid’s meals because those can be pricey for 3 children on a daily bases but their menu is so vast that we can make a lunch off one meal. We love their salad’s and soups too .

We generally have one snack a day and there are those rare occasions that I am in the middle of blogging that the kids will sneak food and in those times I always have bottle water and baby carrots or even a good bag of lays chips somewhere handy. A few days out of the week I have some special things that must be done and I don’t get those opportunities to cook like marinating things and frying stuff or baking things . In those times I can always depend on Knorr pasta or rice sides. I can steam chicken breasts and add tomatoes or carrots to any of the sides for an amazing dish in just under 30 minutes give or take .

When school was in session we usually had a snack before bedtime but its summer and we need more rest in the summer because we have more sunlight . We eat later and we eliminate the snack for the night thus keeping more food in the house for the next day .  And less starving tummy’s for the morning . Somehow the earlier you put them to bed the longer they sleep . I learned this that one night I let the kids stay up passed midnight and they got into everything in the house and then woke up at 6AM.

Summer Rocks , and so does Walmart

Loving Life

Tesha

And Guess What…Nobody Cares

So recently I took a media fast.  There were so many stories surfacing about shootings, murders, robberies and more that I couldn’t rest at night. I spent many nights thinking about those individuals involved, reading their facebook pages, looking at their pictures , trying to see what went wrong. And I have this one friend , we can read one line of a news report and we are emotionally involved in that families life for months. Currently we are grieving for a family that we know but not that well , and when I say grieving we have stayed up all night wondering what went wrong. So yea, I’m too involved . It’s probably something I inherited from my mother, either way I needed a break because I have my own life too.

Well yesterday I decided to open up my browser and read . I don’t just read the stories , I read the comments associated the stories. Why ? Well there is always a cousin, a close friend to the family that will comment and then you will know a portion of the family that wasn’t written in the story. So I came across two stories yesterday one involved a white lady and her daughter that were beaten by this black male and lady because they went to a restaurant and their chicken was cold.  Well the video started when the lady ( the black lady ) comes around the corner and starts to punch the other lady ( white lady) in the face and then the white lady’s daughter gets out of the truck to help her mom . Who wouldn’t help but there is this black male there and he pushes, or punches the young girl in the face and then the tape ends.  I scroll to the bottom of the page to read the comments because as a human I am both tickled ( bc there was no sound and you can add your own words to videos, yeah my sense of humor takes over a lot  ) and mortified. Like what could the woman have said to them to get their temper up so much that they chose to fight . It had to be more. Needless to say they interviewed the attackee ( not a word huh ) and not the attackers and her response was , they need to be placed under the jail.  Sympathy was coming from everywhere. Everyone was on the side of the business owner and of course no one came to the defense of the people that were fighting . I thought well… what could the business owner have said to them to push them to the point of violence it couldn’t be just about cold chicken.

 

Then I moved on to the local story of a bank robbery in the small town of Mantachie, MS.  Mantachie is a small town just East of where I live and the beginning of our family line . So I thought who would go to such a small town to rob a bank not only was there a robbery but the suspect shot and killed a teller and eventually she took her own life.  What could have happened to  have initiated such a terrible crime in such a small town . And then I scrolled down and read the comments ,  the suspect was full of love , she loved hard, she was a great person an asset to the community .  I was shocked even more when our local news story covered a story on the suspect.

I had to do my research at this point because I cannot remember any stories in the past that involved anyone of color that was given the same sympathy. I read on comment on the the Philandro Castro case that said …he had it coming. Who says that about an innocent person whose life was taken in front of a small child because of a busted tail light? When the tapes were released of the baby talking to her mother there was no big out pour of compassion toward that baby girl or the fact that for years to come she is going to suffer.

And then there is Bill Cosby . No I don’t think it is any way a good thing that he has drug and raped women . But at the same time why did they wait so long to tell it?  I mean they had decades to tell this information . And at the same time in real time women were popping out of everywhere telling about the sexual harassment they endured under Donald Trump, the president of the United States. Now since he’s been in office yes we have had information about his Russian prostitutes but nothing on those women and guess what no one has really said anything about that . Remember those women’s rights marches that they had across the country and people calling them idiots for marching … and then the marches died down . And then Shonda Rhimes spoke out against Cosby and I was reminded of her bleached skin and the fact that she has an entire series centered around a woman who is screwing the married President . I guess its only right to commit adultery when its mutually agreed upon even though its still wrong.

Meanwhile our community is still killing each other . We are still making a large impact in the prison system.  We are still not supporting our own . (Remember Willie Lynch and refer back to my comment on Shonda Rhimes. )We are still leading the way in health issues, obesity , unemployment , we are behind in education ,  we are still living in poverty , police are still killing us, the justice system is failing us . We are the leading consumers but we are failing at being a brand and guess what nobody cares. Its time to wake up.

 

I care!

 

Loving Life

Tesha

 

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The Church…

I am a church girl. I was born raised and given my very first job to serve in the church . My parents both were in ministry before I was born and decided to pastor a church well before I or my brothers were born. If we don’t know anything we know about church. My parents took a small salary from church a little over $50 a week . Which in the early 1980’s still wasn’t enough to take care of a family . My Dad was already employed and is still employed at the same company . Eventually my mother became a stylist . We grew up pretty comfortable in the 1980’s and 1990’s.

My father’s message never changed , along his journey in ministry he has always preached an ever increasing faith message . But life increases you , you move from level to level . That is a normal cycle of life. We moved from an apartment to a house , from a three bedroom to a four bedroom and from a 4 bedroom to a 5 bedroom.  Nothing changed but his job title and status. And eventually that $50 a month that he received from the church had dwindled to $0.

And then the 2000’s hit and the internet became popular. So did the prosperity movement . Well the prosperity movement was not something that was new to us … we had heard this message from way back when he was making that $50 a week as a Pastor. Yet as my father grew in his company the message of prosperity was attached to his life. And we didn’t mind , as a matter of fact we still don’t mind. But here lately there has been so much propaganda about Pastor’staking tithes to live off  and I felt it my need and position to address such. Remember my first job was to serve in the church, I became the executive administrator for our church . It was my duty to answer the phones , book our pastors for ministry, do the television shows and lastly I had to file the weekly offering.  I collected the envelopes after they were empty and filed them . I can assure you with my knowledge of what people actually give in the offering it would not be enough for me to purchase my rover and pay it off.  With what people give there is no way we could buy a house or pay a mortgage. Church finance is cyclical .  One Sunday its up and one Sunday its down and forget the mid week services. This is why we have fundraisers and many services. And just think if you don’t decide to give there is someone else that has decided not to give too. We work directly off donations and faith that there is someone that is willing to sow their money for kingdom work. And if you are a new church chances are their is no money saved, there is no stash of hidden money set aside for the pastor to take a trip to Mexico.

Churches are charged lights per square footage , they are charged gas per square footage, churches are also charged a different commercial fee for cable or internet. There are big expenses that go into larger churches, not just lights water and gas but you also have to have regular things like envelopes, paper towels, toilet paper , light bulbs . And we are also are prepared to hosts  weddings and funerals all free. And when someone needs their light bills paid or rent to be caught up we are that person they call . But no one complains about that .  We have to pay musicians and sometimes praise and worship singers , however unless your Dad is not the pastor you will probably get paid to be the administrator. We are the first to be judged when someone child is bullied or killed but when we invited them to church they denied the offer.

Each summer we give an open invitation for youth events and camps. They come to those for the free back to school supplies , we invite them back to Wednesday night church events and they come twice …yet we are to be blamed for situations that we have reached out to help with . The church is blamed for not going outside the four walls but no one is ever blamed for not wanting to attend. Now who’s wrong me for offering you the gospel or you not receiving it .

 

I may write a book on this subject. I digress

Going to Church on Wednesday and still

loving Life

Tesha

 

 

 

 

What’s New…

I’m sure you guys are wondering what is new in Tesha’s boring life so I decided its time to give you an update. My life has been successfully BUSY since my husband left and every week brings about a new adventure.

Last week marked the end of training  for Anthony , we watched him graduate, run and salute. It is very interesting all the things a spouse must learn while they are away and there are so  many rules , so many regulations. At one point I felt like I was on a television show and any moment someone would say … ,”And cut.” Yea I’m still waiting for that . Who knew that after living with this man for 7 years he knows how to make a bed, and fold clothes. He can also get dressed without me . He is currently off to his new assignment and I am here trying to decide family things until he returns …next year.  Well not next year but pretty close.

The kids are the same I introduced Pier to John Grisham …when I was a young reader his books always made me feel smarter. I hope he enjoys this hometown ( Oxford) Author’s stories. He’s still on page 16 which is alarming because this boy has a love for reading maybe he is just not into it. Either way he is going to read that book and the books there after.  Portland has become increasingly worse. I thought that since he would be turning four in a few weeks that he would possibly calm down , yet I am disturbed that he is sitting in the floor at this very moment tearing up paper. He sings loudly, talks in his sleep and now he cries a lot . In a fit of rage , or that moment he doesn’t get his way he breaks out in tears and it reminiscent of a new born baby needing a bottle or a diaper change . I sure hope he grows out of it . At night when he is sleep I search the internet on ways to nurture his appetite for fun . All kids don’t deal well with discipline so I wonder what his triggers are .  I wondered the same about Pier when he was that age , which made me start teaching him to read early but Portland , yea Portland must learn to read before Summer is over . That is next on my list.

The girls are growing up but if I knew girls screamed as much as mine do I would have declined the invitation to be a mother of daughters. They cry over the most simplistic things. They have an explanation for every tear and scream that is rendered.  You would think that me, being a woman too would understand but I have to confess they are too emotional to me. Currently they are into watching youtube and doing vlogs. I go back and look at these vlogs  and they are saying absolutely nothing …introducing dolls and their functions and such . Pk sings all day …her favorite song is Jesus loves the little children . I currently hate that song . She sings the song in 3 part harmony too and that’s tough because she cannot sing those parts at once they must be done separately which makes that song even longer and very ,very ,very dramatic.  Peach is still attached to me but shes’s crafty . She makes things out of nothing and they are a master piece to her .  We’ve gone thru a lot of construction paper, glue , ribbons and markers. She’s in the corner now making something for Sunday . Its probably just crumbled up paper but she says its a crown. I’ll post a picture when its done.

Peyton is over driving . After waiting a year to get his drivers license , I have to bribe him to drive. He is also a bottomless pit. Well they all are , I don’t remember eating so much as a kid . I mean every 15 minutes they are requesting food .  I possibly feed them more now than I did when they were infants.  As a matter of fact I know I do .

As for me I’ve read one book , I sleep a little less and I desperately need a pedicure. I have not been to the nail shop in 3 weeks because I decided to take a short cut and go to a nail shop that I had not been to but it was closer to my destination. The little inexperienced newly hired nail technician not only didn’t speak English she also didn’t cut my nail short enough . She didn’t file it either even though I told her 3 times to cut my toe nails down  and what happened next…my nail cracked and its painful. I shall return to the place I normally go to this week and in a hurry because I am ashamed of my own feet.

We are getting ready to see Anthony soon as well plan our summer vacation I am equally excited for both .  I’m enjoying each and every moment with the time I have with these babies because Summer moves fast and school starts soon .

Feeding kids and

loving life

Tesha

I Can Win Too

Sunday in our Christian Education class we talked about winning . I was able to take a mental journey on my own childhood when  winning wasn’t on my list of priorities. I was a professional loser.  I knew how to lose well and I wasn’t too sad about losing. My older brother, on the other hand had to win. It was a must that he won everything even if it meant that mid way through the process he changed the rules. I was the youngest child and eventually I was the middle child which put me in the place of being the peace maker and if winning made him happy, then it was okay with me that he won.

It was only until I went to school and was around children that were my own age on the same level with me that I knew that I was actually better than I originally thought . But I still used losing as my advantage at home and around the youth group at church . See if you are a chronic loser you can learn how to win when someone older than you decides to , “help,” you win . When you are a chronic loser you never have to swing a bat, run to a base, steal home, you never have to play dodge ball, you never have to really play kick ball , you never have to walk , tie your shoes, fix your own plate , you never have to color and you never have to write . All you have to do is to remain handicap and someone is willing and ready to do it all for you .  I was a professional at this but it was not my personality or a part of my genetic DNA to continue in this folly . I was smarter than I let on and one day , all of a sudden I randomly won a game of checkers, I beat them at UNO , they figured out that I could read, write and color. And one day I decided that I could walk and not be carried.  And guess what …we were no longer as tight as we once were because now we had to compete. Most of all I knew I could win .

Checkerboard game from a birds eye view. Stock Photo - 28451470

Because of my new found independence I had to learn how to compete in life.  I wish I had learned this more when I was in my adolescent years because my coping skills as an adult would be better but I actually learned how to compete in life while in college. I had been in a few pageants before I entered college and for some reason I wanted to be in the pageant but I hated the judgement, the critiques, and I hated to lose. So I had to learn to enjoy the process and learn what makes me a winner.  And from that point forward rather I won or lost it was the process that was the most enjoyable.

Pageants are just like life, you are judged from the moment you walk on the stage. You are judged by the way you walk , the way you talk, the way you listen and the way you comprehend.  Most importantly you are judged by how much fun you have during the process. Isn’t that funny that you are actually judged by whether or not you are having fun.  Life is a lot like this , sometimes good things don’t happen for us in the time that we need them to happen because we are too busy complaining about our situation instead of getting joy that God has given us this time . Until the peace of mind comes and then enjoying the process that situation that you are facing will be a situation that is unfavorable.  The right mind produces the right results.

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In life we compete for everything , there is not often a grand prize with flowers a crown or a parade but the reward is knowing that we have reached a goal , and when you’ve finally reached a goal and it is without kicking and screaming you’ll have time to enjoy the prize.   Don’t become the person I was and be the professional loser, instead use the positive side of it , always learn from your mistakes and win.

Winning

Loving Life

Tesha

And then there’s Thursday …

Some days I wake up in the morning and everything is smooth sailing . The day goes by fast , the kids are well behaved , breakfast , lunch and dinner moves fast , they play themselves down and bath time comes and they go right to sleep . And  then there is Thursday. I don’t why but every Thursday morning I cannot seem to even muster up the energy to even dress myself.  I have one thing that must be done on Thursday and the fact that I have had 7 days from the previous Thursday never seems to be enough time to meet that deadline and because of that I feel like I cannot make anything happen on Thursday  . My reasoning doesn’t mean that I do not have the ability to do it its just the fact that my mind is telling me that I do not have the time to do it. When in fact I have ample time and a pattern to make everything go smoothly,  its all about how you think about it .

I was riding through the neighborhood Thursday evening , trying to wear the babies down and doing research. I noticed some new construction and I admired the designs and their ability to build the same house and make it look completely different. I noticed the vast differences in the ages of my neighbors from those that were at retirement age to those that were freshly out of their twenties just settling into life. I started to think what was that one thing that put them in the position that they’re in right now? I remembered back on the previous Wednesday night , when our pastor gave us a passionate lesson on the mind. As a man thinks so is he. She went on to say that if you think bad things , bad things will happen . If you focus on the wrong things , the wrong things will happen to you . Positive thoughts produces positive results.

As I drove back to my house , I said someone had a vision for this neighborhood, and someone had a vision for the construction of the homes and how to situate the lots. They knew people would purchase lots and build homes and after they had lived there for a while, there were people in place to price these homes and sale them  . The same homes that were sold in 2004 for $250 k have now tripled in price and that same 4 bedroom and 3 bath house built 20 years ago on the same street in the same neighborhood can be sold for $610k. And it was someone in place ready to make that purchase sometimes in 1 year or 1 week .  Someone , some place in some previous time had a vision and expected for this to happen . And because of their positive thoughts they more than likely had positive results.

Which lead me to think about all those times I was up late at night thinking about whether or not I would ever get married. That one person who didn’t like me . If I can fit into that cute dress I just bought and whether or not I should be nice to my husband .  And if I could finish my Thursday project on time . Instead of thinking about things I could actually do to improve my life. Facebook was created from good thoughts, so was myspace but someone’s vision was bigger and always evolving.  Mcdonald’s was created from a great thought but someone’s vision was ever evolving causing it to go above and beyond. Starbucks came from a great thought so were cell phone’s , fidget spinners,  reality television, so on and so forth. Don’t allow your small thoughts trap you from a successful future.

This week I am only thinking great things about Thursday! My thoughts will evolve into something beautiful .

Loving Thursday and Life

Tesha