Friday afternoon I had a conversation with my mother about relationships. Being a Pastor’s wife ,my mother has a lot of wisdom when it comes to relationships. She can sit down and tell you some things that will make you think hard about whatever decision you are about to make in reflection to relationships. The things that she shares are undiluted and although they are simple in words they are nothing less than the whole truth.
Because she is so well versed in the course of relationships you can bank on the words that she and my father says about relationships. I’m 27 years old and some change but in that time I have never seen them say anything that has not ever happened. But why is it that relationships suffer so much. Why is there so much drama associated to relationships why does it seems like there are more break ups than make ups?
I started to think about my own upbringing . Looking at the demonstration of love that was in front of me was without question next to perfection. I watched my parents love on each other more than they fussed . I watched my parents love on us more than the talked harsh to us. I watched as we got into trouble for doing things that we were not supposed to do compounded with unconditional love and acceptance. I thought life was like this . I thought every one was the same way and then I started dating . And I realized everyone was not raised like me . And for me that was not at all okay. But because I was a church girl I knew that there had to be exceptions to rules.
It was after my 3rd relationship that I realized …everyone doesn’t share love like I know it. And its ok …I guess it is it happens too often for it not to be okay, right . But why is it like that ? Unfortunately in life there are times that love is not displayed the same way . But fortunately there are plenty of examples of love in other things. I mean you can watch a Disney movie with your child and see the display of love you need to have in your relationships. As women we feel love oozing out of our pores. We love everything that we come in contact with …usually. That’s why it is so easy for us to love the ugly creature that comes out of our body before it is really formed.
Men on the other hand try to be hard . And love is not shown in the way that we as women need it to be shown. Sometimes talk sounds like love to a woman but even those words that you are enjoying listening to aren’t love. Sometimes gifts, dinners, cards, seem like love but even that isn’t love. And lastly sometimes giving that person your most sacred treasure may seem like love and even with that you are left feeling empty , dirty and unloved.
Love is sappy, it is broad, it is to be cherished and not played with . It is a constant display of affection , it is respect and it is loyalty. Love will never lie, love will never boast, love will never make you feel less than , love with never make you second guess, love is not inconsistent, love puts up with things that you yourself said you would never deal with, love says I’ll be there for you no matter what, love is never embarrassed, love is …with out condition.
And until you find that , love will never find your home. Let’s bring Love Back.