Who Makes the Bigger Sacrifice…

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The above picture shows my last days as a fancy free lady of the world. In just a few short weeks I became Mrs. Tesha Cummings because I refused to change my last name. In the few short months after this picture was taken I realized what the word sacrifice really meant.

You know as a little girl I never knew why my mother didn’t want me following her into the bathroom when she got dressed. And I never knew what her deal was when , I always wanted to go with her and those times where she just wanted to be alone. I didn’t realize the real sacrifice marriage did to your lifestyle.

I got married on a beautiful day ( giggle).  The sun was shining , we had plans to do big things after becoming Mr.&Mrs. I feel like I have told this story a thousand times and we’ve only been married 4 years. But my life changed immediately when I moved into his current apartment. He gave me a 1/4 of his closet space. I had left most of my clothing back home and had not planned to move everything out until we were settled into our new house. Suddenly I was living in a suit case , who would have thought I would still be packed up (LOL). 

We settled in I got used to my 3 hangers I had in the closet. I spent weeks cleaning up, changing scents in the house till I realized this is not home. We moved and the rest is history. 

But as the days fast rapidly I can’t but to notice the big sacrifice I made just to be married. There are many Sunday’s I come to church , getting dressed in the car. I gave birth to too many children at one time and my time is so consumed with their needs that sometimes I look in the mirror after a long day and jump , who is this person in the mirror . The way I look and the way I feel are two different individuals. 

I used to wake in the morning and worry about three individuals. Peyton, Pier and Me. And because they are boys they seemed to be less needy than the average person. Besides that they spent a great deal of time with my parents I didn’t really realize all the needs that went into having a family.

I have found myself worried about everything, that I have sometimes had to come back and say get a hold to your life. . I am up at night calculating bills , paying this, paying that , adding up how much I can save on pampers if I do it this way, looking through the ads online to see whats on sale and buying accordingly , I am picking out paint , looking at brick samples. I go shopping for the family and because I am trying to look out for everybody else in the family that sometimes I have to say , take a coffee break. Enjoy the breeze!

Wives , sacrifice so much just so the family can run effectively that there are times that you lose yourself. Don’t lose yourself in the hustle of life, take time and enjoy the breeze. 

It’s Always something…

Its a new year!!! I’ve enjoyed reading all the great things that people have planned for in 2014. The trips, the new jobs, graduation, career turn arounds and my most enjoyable experience is waiting to hear what the Lord is saying to the church in this new year. What is the clarion call for ministry?What new direction is the Lord talking us in , in the new year? Is it new? Is there a transition of generals? Are the days of Mega churches over?

 

Since 2009 the church has experienced and economic depression. There is an increasing number of pastors that have experienced the wrath of ministry in ways that before have been uncommon. Suicide, depression, drug overdoses, loss of vision , just to name a few things, have trapped Pastors so much so that we have to ask ourselves, have we taken ministry to far? And what is God saying about this?

 

In 2013 some new reality shows were introduced to the world ,  the first , Preachers wives of Atlanta (tlc), Preachers Wives of LA (lifetime), Preachers daughters ( lifetime) and the LA Preachers (Oxygen) . Each of these shows were supposed to give an inside glimpse of what life is really like  inside the Pastors house. Some of the scenarios that the families faced were far fetched and odd, some showed just one side of ministry, and some showed too much . As a Pastor’s daughter, I looked at the shows and took them all in with an opened mind. Because I feel like we deserve a chance to tell our own story. Maybe I was too open minded, to liberal with my beliefs … but thats ok, right?

Although these particular shows were placed to shed light on what was really going on in the world of a pastor but rather than showing the reality of things and individuals accepting the fact that these people are real. It shed a darkness over pastors . Now , one would have to question who they are really following. Could perhaps my pastor be just like some of the preachers I saw on television? Should I continue to put my trust in the man and woman of God?

 

To answer those questions… just remember that everybody is different. There is no man and woman of God that is just a like . I would guess that if God has truly called that man or woman of God into ministry, there is something genuine inside them to see ministry not just for the millions of dollars that they can raise on Sunday mornings but for the millions of souls that their ministry can reach. It really brings joy to my heart when I hear someone say, I heard a message by your parents and it really encouraged me. Although money is good , that means that your message is effective.

God is still calling men and women of God to serve in the vineyard. Pray for your man and woman of God. Keep their family in your daily prayers and don’t fail to encourage them .